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McElvarr Funeral Homes, Inc.
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1415-17 E. Susquehanna Ave
| Philadelphia, PA 19125
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Tel: 1-215-739-1473
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Hubert M. McBride Funeral Home
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2357 E Cumberland Street
| Philadelphia, PA 19125
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Tel: 1-215-426-8989

A letter to our Valued Clients, who are like family to us:


We would like to address our limitations and position as it pertains to this current crisis, the pandemic COVID-19.

Under the definition stated by the U.S. Department of Homeland Security, funeral homes are considered essential personnel. Thankfully, we are still able be here for you if the need arises. In the words of funeral director, Thomas Lynch, “A good funeral gets the dead where they need to go and living where they need to be.” This is our intent, in spite of these uncertain conditions. We are still able to ensure that a private burial or cremation is carried out with care. We can still get our loved ones where they need to go. Our priority now is keeping the family left behind safe, along with ourselves, clergy, and our own families at home. Home for us includes those of our staff who reside in the funeral homes.

The Pennsylvania Funeral Director’s Association have established the following guidelines. “Funerals or anything connected to them must be limited to ten people or less and arrangements should be done by phone, fax, email, skype, or Facetime where possible". These steps are necessary to help reduce the severity and spread of the virus among humans. This is also in accordance with the “stay at home” order that has been issued by Philadelphia County and the surrounding areas.

We understand how this will make an already difficult situation even more unbearable but please know that we are committed to being there for you every step of the way to ensure that your loved one is honored in the most beautiful way. We are here 24/7 for your questions and to assist you if the need arises. We are offering private funerals in our funeral home and also direct burial or direct cremation. Once things return to normal, we will be here to assist you in arranging the proper memorialization for your loved one. We are dealing with uncharted territory and things are changing quickly. We will continue to keep you updated as things progress. We appreciate you, we love you, and our hopes are that this pandemic will resolve in the near future if we all do our part

Funeral Etiquette


When someone you know passes away, your first instinct is to offer encouragement, help, and support to those affected — but you may not be sure what to say or do. It's okay to feel this way.

Does it matter what I wear? Can I bring the children? What should I say to the family of the deceased? When should I visit? McElvarr Funeral Homes, Inc. offers guidance on the proper etiquette of visitations and funerals, so you'll feel more comfortable and prepared for attending services.


What to Say

It can be difficult to know what to say to the family of the deceased to express your sympathy. To begin, offer your condolences to the family. If you are comfortable, share a memory of the deceased. In this difficult time, sharing the joy of the deceased’s life can help comfort the bereaved. For example, “I was so sorry to hear of Mary’s passing. She was always such a wonderful friend to me."

What to Wear

When attending a memorial service or funeral, dress in dark and subdued colors, such as dark blues, grays, browns, and black. Be sure to dress simply and conservatively. Men are encouraged to wear a jacket and tie paired with dress shoes, while women should choose either a dress or a suit. Any jewelry should be subtle and traditional.

Arriving

When attending a funeral or a service, do your best to be on time. Try to enter the facility as quietly as possible. If there are no ushers present, remember that the first few rows of seats are usually for the immediate family and close friends. Acquaintances should appropriately seat themselves in the middle or towards the rear.

When to Visit

Immediately upon learning of a death, it is appropriate for family and close friends to go to the home of the bereaved to offer sympathy and support. This can be a very overwhelming time for a family. Offering to assist with child care, food preparation, receiving visitors, or service preparations can provide immense comfort during this difficult process. 

 The funeral home is the best place to visit the family to offer your condolences, as they are prepared for visitors at these services.

Flowers

Sending flowers is a wonderful way to express your sympathy to the family of the deceased, and can bring comfort in a difficult time. Flowers are a meaningful gift that can be enjoyed during and after the funeral service.

Floral arrangements and plants can be sent to the funeral home to be present at services, or sent to the home of the family directly.

What Not to Say

Try not to give comments that minimize the loss, such as "It's probably for the best, because he was suffering too much," or "I've been in your shoes myself." These will not provide comfort to the bereaved

Wait for the family to discuss the cause of death. Do not bring it up yourself.

Keep the Line Moving

Visitations can be very emotional, especially when speaking with the family of the deceased. If there is a line to speak with the bereaved and view the casket, be conscious of keeping the line moving. After passing through the line, be sure to stand to the side to continue conversation, or allow the family member to continue to greet guests. The family will often be more available to speak following the conclusion of the service.

Mobile Phone Use

Smart phones should be turned off or silenced completely during the service. Checking your phone is noticeable and is a distraction to those who are trying to pay their respects. If you must return a message or receive a call, exit the service quietly.

Children

Allowing a child to attend a memorial or funeral service can help them say goodbye to a friend or loved one. It is important to not force a child to go, but instead encourage them to share in this tribute with the rest of the family. Before attending, help prepare them by explaining what they might see at the service.

GIFTS

This can be a very draining time for a family. The gift of food is a kind gesture that the family will deeply appreciate and help alleviate the stress of funeral planning and mourning.

Remembering children in the family is a thoughtful gesture, as this is often a difficult time for them as well. A small gift like a stuffed animal or a book is best.

Time is precious. Helping with household tasks ease the family's burden. Caring for pets, driving children to school, running errands, or helping around the house are wonderful ways to help the family.

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In this section

When Death Occurs

Frequent Questions

Funeral Etiquette

Grief Support

Talking to Children

Social Security Benefits

Funeral Financing

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